Is it bad form to have several different study groups? One for general study, one for cram sessions and quizzing each other, and one that is more of a "let's get together and work out our outlines so neither of us have gaps" kind of thing?
This is the current state of affairs for me:
One group, the one I have been in since almost day one, is fairly laid back and really doesn't study so much as do a few hypos and then close to exams really works together to get down key concepts.
Another group, much more cram oriented, but very very effective and also full of people I know are getting it with very little confusion. Two guys in this group and I are pretty well on the same level of thinking which is nice - we can really drill each other down and not feel bad about being pretty pointed and harsh when needed. I know some of you know what I mean.
Final group is really me and one othe person, both of us nontraditional and both of us wanting to put in the effort to make sure we understand stuff.
The make up of these groups is pretty funny - and all of the people I know I can learn from and with. But I'm wondering about whether this is bad form, this group slutting I am thinking of continuing.
Also, nother etiquette question. When grades come out, do you share them? Even with your closest friends do you stick to this weird "I did very well" or "I didn't do as well as I hoped" kind of shorthand? It seems unnatural.
Related, do you reveal your class rank to others? It's on your resume in my region so - what the heck? Doesn't that delete the need for the whole weird "very well" "well" "not as well" stuff?
This is a strange, strange world, law school, with its forced intimacy in so many ways and its complete standoffishness in others.
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5 comments:
Absolutely not. Revealing grades and GPAs only leads to drama. The best thing to do is not say anything about grades at all. If someone asks, the most you should probably say is "I did well enough to stay." Because that's all that matters. If you find yourself with the overwhelming desire to share your grades.... find ONE friend you can confide in. Other than that. Keep your trap shut.
A LOT of people shared grades this summer after we received them. I, for one, totally fudged my grade with my good friend, "Ms. A-". I think it's better not to discuss because no good can come of it. I don't think hearing that your friends got A's (or C's, as happened with one of my classmates) makes anyone feel better.
I agree. There is no benefit to telling people your grades. The way people view you and the way you view others change with grades. Someone who people might have thought to be a bit ditzy, might get the A+, while the smart guy with all the complicated questions might get the C. I say keep it in the family. Tell your non-law school friends and family.
Yeah, sharing grades just brings everyone down. It's real hard to be happy for your friend who got an A in the class you busted your butt in, and they didn't pay attention in, when you got a C+. It's equally as hard when you get an A and you find out your friend completely bombed the exam.
Of course, everyone's going to share grades regardless. Curiosity gets the better of you. But moreso than grades, I hate the rankings. I refused to get my class rank this year. I had a good improvement in my gpa, I felt good about myself, and I didn't want the class rank to ruin it for me!
Agreed with everyone else - don't share grades. If you really want to compare, then find one really close friend to share with.
For some reason, people in my class really love to tell me their grades - perhaps hoping I will reciprocate. People generally think that I got better grades than I actually did and that's fine with me. No need to share my mediocrity!
The only people that know my grades are my fiance and my absolute closest law school friend - he and I agreed that we would share with each other and each other alone, it helped us to form a study plan for the spring semester after seeing what our strengths and weaknesses were from fall semester when compared to each other. My parents don't even know my grades.
When people ask, my pat answer is always, "I'm still here."
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